Question

when do we become who we are meant to be?
when we are honest with ourselves and the people in our lives
when we adopt peoples ideas of what they think we should be
when we are not intentional with our words
all of the above

Explanation:

Honesty with self and others is key to self - realization. Adopting others' ideas or being unintentional with words hinders finding one's true self.

Answer:

When we are honest with ourselves and the people in our lives