Question

anne arundel county public schools | department of academics & strategic initiatives
“i” and need statements
when a person feels that they are being blamed, whether rightly or wrongly, it is common that they respond with defensiveness. “i” statements are a simple way of speaking that will help you avoid this trap by reducing feelings of blame. a good “i” statement takes responsibility for ones own feelings, while tactfully describing a problem. “i” statements are also an assertive way to effectively communicate. need statements help express what you need in the moment in an assertive way.
“i feel emotion word when explanation
other sentence starters: i think... i want... i dont like...
“i feel...” must be followed with an emotion word, such as “angry”, “hurt”, or “worried”.
do not use the word “you” in your statement. try to find ways to express how you feel without using the word “you”.
scenario 1 your boss put you on the schedule for a day you had requested off for an out of town family function.
“i” statement
need statement
scenario 2 you have been really stressed about the amount of school work you missed when you were sick and one of your teachers just gave you more work due this week.
“i” statement
need statement
scenario 3 your brother seems to have more freedom than you. you think your parents rules are unfair.
“i” statement
need statement
scenario 4 you believe you did better on a test than what your grade reflects.
“i” statement
need statement
create your own scenario
“i” statement
need statement
aacps health education b unit 7 page 1

Explanation:

For Scenario 1: "I" statement - I feel disappointed when you scheduled me for a day I requested off for a family function. Need statement - I need you to respect my time - off requests.
For Scenario 2: "I" statement - I feel overwhelmed when you gave me more work after I was sick and already stressed about the missed work. Need statement - I need some leniency and understanding with my workload.
For Scenario 3: "I" statement - I feel frustrated when I see my brother having more freedom than me. Need statement - I need fair - treatment and equal rules.
For Scenario 4: "I" statement - I feel confused when my test grade doesn't reflect what I think I deserved. Need statement - I need a clear explanation of my grading.
For Create Your Own Scenario: Let's say the scenario is "Your friend cancelled plans at the last minute without a good reason." "I" statement - I feel let - down when you cancel our plans at the last minute. Need statement - I need you to respect our plans and communicate better.

Answer:

Scenario 1:
"I" Statement: I feel disappointed when you scheduled me for a day I requested off for a family function.
Need Statement: I need you to respect my time - off requests.
Scenario 2:
"I" Statement: I feel overwhelmed when you gave me more work after I was sick and already stressed about the missed work.
Need Statement: I need some leniency and understanding with my workload.
Scenario 3:
"I" Statement: I feel frustrated when I see my brother having more freedom than me.
Need Statement: I need fair - treatment and equal rules.
Scenario 4:
"I" Statement: I feel confused when my test grade doesn't reflect what I think I deserved.
Need Statement: I need a clear explanation of my grading.
Create Your Own Scenario:
"I" Statement: I feel let - down when you cancel our plans at the last minute.
Need Statement: I need you to respect our plans and communicate better.